Divorce has become more common compared to the 1950's and earlier generations. These days people seem to get married with the idea "hey if it doesn't work out there is always divorce". However, that is not how marriage was set up or meant to be. We see the hurt and stress it can cause between two adults but sometimes the ones who are really hurt are the children.
Children should be seen and not heard, that is an old common phrase we have heard in the past. I believe that children should be seen and heard and when we are able to listen and watch that is how we learn about the child. I have seen how the family situation of divorce plays an important role in the child's life. A child in the middle of divorce may feel that they have to choose sides, that if they have fun at one of their parents house they must "keep it a secret", or the younger ones are used as a pawn. A parent may keep the child away from the other parent to hurt them when really they are hurting the child and creating stress in their little world.
Sadly divorce occurs for children world wide. There may be different laws in different countries and states regarding the placement of children. Divorce can affect each child differently depending on the experience but it is still stressful for them and understanding their "role" and finding their identity in a drastic change of events.
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